A minute ago you were all smiley face emojis and winks, but now you sound like we just threatened to kill your dog.

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Once interest has been established, who will approach first? This is where we try to show the other person that there are other people interested in us (these could be real or imaginary), and therefor we're a very valuable and important person. This is the game where you might show up late for a date, cancel a date or wait a few days to return a call.

While it does seem more instinctual for the male to approach the female, men are often wary of rejection, and can be hesitant to approach. It's been 1.5 days since I've heard from them - what does this mean? This game taken too far, can trigger a foundation of mistrust and insecurity in those who struggle with jealousy to begin with, and the results are often more than you bargained for... This game involves pure power plays, with the intent of keeping the other person on their toes, in a state of waiting for you.

This hesitation can turn some women off however, as most women "instinctually" want a "strong" and decisive man... The Telephone Game - once contact has been established. Taken too far, it tells your date you're unreliable and can't be counted on.

Not the fun game we played as kids, phone/text/email games are enough to make you lose your mind. It seems virtually impossible these days not to fall into some kind of game-playing in the initial stages of dating, but we must be extremely mindful of taking them too far, because sooner or later, the games must come to an end, and we must be honest to ourselves and each other.

It appears the "the chase" has become something more of a war. There's the timeless art of seduction, and then there's being a jerk.

Look, a little bit of gamesmanship in dating is fun. Maybe you've been guilty of behaving this way, or maybe you've been on the receiving end of it. It's understandable that you want to play it cool when you first start chatting.

While games were fun to play as a child however, the games adults play are far more manipulative, and involve our most valuable asset as the prize - our hearts. It revolves around the quest for power, which instinctually we search for to alleviate feelings of perceived vulnerability. Glances are exchanged, body language is highly engaged, and the thrill of possibility occupies our minds.

"Playing" with our emotions can also often illicit extreme and addictive emotional reactions, from the highs of "winning" acceptance, to the lows of confusion, anxiety, and rejection. This is the phase where we try to guess, are they interested or not? This game is where it can really start to get ugly, and it also has great potential to backfire.

As our relationship progressed, her text responses eventually came quicker.

By the end, she'd reply almost immediately, which of course led me to conclude that the whole slow response thing at the beginning was purely intentional.

Now you may be experiencing the same thing with your woman. ) And if you are, I want you to understand the following two things: First, you’re your fault. Women play games with men because they have this tendency which is naturally built into their psychology.