The “new urban” is very often much like Beyoncé, never having seen the streets a day in her life, but influenced by their values nonetheless.Nevertheless, the realities and conditions of urban living in your thirties are tough, and you didn’t have to grow up in the inner city to feel the burden.

Although the company has initiated a doubling down on mobile, the experience of users like Riccardo might suggest another path to profitability. The almost decade-old Couchsurfing, which is available in 100,000 cities across the globe, is becoming the go-to hookup app for a certain class of young world travelers.

Bloggers like Maverick Traveler will help you spot the “8 Signs of a Slutty Couch Surfer Girl” by decoding her profile, and female-centric advice site You Queen has even offered tips on “How to Use Couch Surfing as a Dating Site and Get Away with It.” Meanwhile, a site called Couch Bangs.com, which declares that “Couchsurfing isn’t just for Couchsurfing,” offers a forum for proud couch-cuddlers to share their experiences via short posts with titles like “French Girl in Istanbul” and “Brazilian Girl in New York.” Couch Surfing’s Community Guidelines explicitly warn against contacting other members for dating, noting, “we will consider this harassment” — albeit without stipulating what the penalties are for violating this rule.

After a controversial transition to a for-profit model in 2011, which brought $22 million in funding in the past two years, growing pains have set in.

In October, layoffs claimed an estimated 40 percent of the staff, and CEO Tony Espinoza announced his departure — giving an opening to competitors like Be Welcome and Hospitality Club.

Nobody liked pop quizzes in high school, nobody needs them in dating. If you approach a woman expecting to meet her flaws, you’ll be less disappointed when they show up, and you’ll probably find you still like her anyway. Because women are human — just like other humans you know; your mother, your father, your brother, your cousins — they will disappoint you at one time or another. If you like a woman a lot, see potential in her, it’s clear she has a good heart, just ask her to give you a chance.

No “one wrong move and she gets wacked.” This isn’t Scarface.

As a single woman in her thirties, the dynamics of dating in the new urban scene are confusing.

By mid to late thirties, most of us who date and live in diverse urban cities are pretty self-aware and financially independent.

If you ignore the first suggestion, at least understand that the desire for a woman to be loyal to you is an expectation.