And while I might nitpick with a line or two, on the whole, I think Moxie knocked it out of the park.Name: Betty | Location: New York , NY |Question: I am not sure if you have asked/answered this question before but I was wondering if you had any advice where a single woman in her late thirties could meet marriage/family minded men who are around my age?

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I’d be inclined to publish highlights but that wouldn’t do this piece its proper justice.

Noted blogger, Moxie, has written a powerful message to women in their late 30’s: take responsibility for your life.

For 1 person that meets your expectations there are 3-5 that don’t. Definitely take advantage of the stand-bys but add some new ones, too. Singles/social networking events are great but, like online dating, you shouldn’t rely on them to meet new people. Guys in bars are looking for the 25-32 year old gal.

And, if you meet those “ones” online, then it’s very likely that they are someone else’s “one great date” as well due to the whole “kid in a candy store” mentality that online dating encourages. Go to a few, like two or three, then try something different. Again, let that slide a bit, since many singles our age are divorced. Or they’re looking for desperate women who will be easy to get in to bed. Insisting on going for people that you think you deserve but who have no interest in you? There is a reason and it’s more than “I’m just picky” or “I’ve been too busy to date.” I haven’t met one person over the age of 35 who’s still single who wasn’t that way for a serious reason. We aren’t willing to sit back and allow things to unfold at a natural pace.

A lot of men make this assumption on their own without ever asking us. They have more options than we do and don’t have to ask us. I was having a conversation with Evan Marc Katz recently.

If you don’t know who he is, he’s a well known dating/relationship expert that started e-Cyrano, an online dating profile writing company.Having a reminder of those slim pickins in your in-box every day isn’t fun and can condition someone to believe that there truly is “no one” out there for them.What else is disheartening is for every one good date you might have, you end up having 3-5 awful ones.I have never been interested in dating men much older than me (frankly I don’t have a single girlfriend, married or single, who is so inclined).However, I have noticed over the past 5 years that the men who approach me have been getting exponentially older (seriously, I was recently contacted online by a 70 year old man – older than my father).I agreed with that, but also told him that the reason why hearing from only those people is frustrating is that it makes you wonder what it is about you that is attracting only these people.