What boy will be interested in dating a girl who isn’t comfortable being herself?

Kari Kubiszyn Kampakis is a mom of four girls, as well as an author, speaker, and blogger from Birmingham, Alabama.

Her newest book for teen & tween girls, LIKED: WHOSE APPROVAL ARE YOU LIVING FOR?

There is something attractive and desirable to a boy about a girl who is humble and confident yet not aggressive.

That is the kind of girl the good guys – the protectors, not the predators – are most likely to be interested in.

When you find fulfillment before a boy ever enters the picture, you become the kind of girl who lives with such joy and peace that the right guys will inevitably take notice and think, “Wow. A boyfriend who had to be hunted down is very unlikely to court you, plan special dates, and initiate contact.

Rather than being smitten, he’ll probably be passive and lukewarm in his feelings toward you.

God created you to guard your heart, not freely give it away to every boy who comes and goes.

Chasing boys might make them notice you, but it won’t make them love you.

They don’t like it and usually aren’t sure what to do with the excessive attention.

If you’re like me and my husband, and you want your daughter to buck the rising trend of girls chasing boys, here are five talking points to start the conversation. You are smart, energetic, and equipped to change the world with your God-given gifts.

The world tells girls it’s empowering to take charge and make advances on males, but I believe it hurts them.