If they are decent and honorable human beings, men will show their appreciation in many ways, large and small.A man who shows no appreciation for a woman's efforts in the relationship is not worth keeping. A woman who wants to have a long-term relationship leading to marriage and family would do better to place character strengths ahead of sexual skills.To the male mind, a woman who is offers wonderful love and great sex but refuses to make a home is a concubine, not a wife.

A couple months ago, I did exactly that, but via Facebook.

I emailed about 25 male friends and acquaintances -- mostly men in their 20's and 30's but a couple older men as well -- to ask them the following: "What do you, as a man, want?

I am sure that I am revealing my age, but most men, even young men, are thrilled to find a woman who knows how to cook--- not gourmet quality meals, men don't care about gourmet food-- but who can competently put a meal on the table with some consistency.

They are very happy when a woman is willing to show her love by caring for them.

The answers ranged from theoretical to specific, shallow to profound, and the majority focused (without my prodding) on what men wanted from women and in relationships (as opposed to what they wanted in other areas in life -- job, home, possessions, etc.).

I suppose it's a fallacy to think women have the market cornered when it comes to musing about love and relationships.#5: Top qualities I look for in a woman: 1) Independence - I'm very passionate about my career, so an independent woman would enable me to juggle all the responsibilities and we can treasure our time together.2) Drive - a woman who knows what she wants and achieves with her own bare hands is very attractive.3) Maturity - I don't think anything would make a guy say "oh dear god" as bad as baby talk.4) Taking pride in appearance - every guy would love to show his buddies that he's "got a hot ass girl" (subject to personal taste).If we are just hanging out and watching TV and you get a call, get up and take the call in another room if it going to be more than a minute or two. 3) If you ask me a question or for advice, really make sure that you want the answer. #3: For a man, the basics in a relationship involve, first and foremost, character. If their lives are well-organized and predictable, they will be content. They do not want relationships filled with drama and conflict and surprises.