Many couples are choosing to cohabit as an alternative to or dress rehearsal for marriage.Research is mixed as to whether couples who live together prior to marriage are as satisfied as those that waited until after marriage.Are these guys patient or just stringing them along? As it turns out, there isn’t a lot of recent research on the courtship length prior to marriage.

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On average, the couples in my study decided to marry 2.8 years after they first showed romantic interest (many couples knew each other before they dated, but that isn’t counted).

This may reflect growing trends in the delay of marriage.

Much has changed in the last thirty years, and those in my study are still reporting general satisfaction in their marriages.

There is actually a lower divorce rate now than in the 80s, and what marriage means on a societal level is also changing.

If not, you may find yourself like Jennifer Aniston’s character in Bruce Almighty (she repeats this long-suffering role in “He’s Just not that Into You”) whose boyfriend needs literal divine intervention from God to get him to propose.

In real life God doesn’t make such obvious house calls.What are the issues that might be holding him back?Are these worth addressing, accepting, or rejecting?If you are focused on the subject, are you missing issues sitting just on the periphery? On one hand, if either of you are still in college or graduate school and not financially stable it might not be a good idea.But a 30-something guy in a multi-year relationship with a steady job doesn’t have that same excuse. Maybe he really is just saving up his pennies and has a plan in place.You are not a used car salesman trying to get rid of shoddy goods.