Also, forgiveness is for when someone has a) stopped doing the harmful thing and b) apologized.

I am a 34 year old straight woman in an open marriage with a 39 year straight man.

I have taken far more advantage of the openness of our marriage than my husband, at least until recently.

This past Sunday my lover and I went to a country pub and I glanced in the dining room and saw my husband with a beautiful older woman, but not just any woman.

It was my mother and, from the way they looked at each other and were touching, I could tell instantly that it was more than a friendly lunch; they were quite obviously in love with each other.

I am drawn to men who are starkly different than my husband, who is an intellectual, moderate in terms of his vices and has a disdain for the type of men who spend every evening in a pub.

I have a drinking problem but it is not a problem I feel any need to resolve and I am drawn to men who are also drinkers like me.

I have had a string of long-term affairs and short-term flings.

During the past 8 months I have basically been living with another man in a neighbouring town to the one I live in.

My husband would be disgusted with the way I have let myself go and would probably refuse to have sex with me but he’s happily screwing my mother now and enjoying her perfect body. I would love to put an end to their happy little relationship.