Avoid these errors at all cost, and don’t forget to first make sure your profile passes muster: Here are the 12 Biggest Dating-Profile Blunders Men Make.

But lucky for you, we live at a time in which there are plenty of tools that check errors and improve how we come across in our writing.

That said, you really ought to re-familiarize yourself with some common errors that might make someone think twice about responding to your message.

Some people we polled—especially women—don’t take kindly to initial messages that center on their body. “If the first thing a guy says to me is directed at my boobs, I assume that’s all he’s interested in.

No thank you, sir.” A much better approach is to focus in on your shared interests and ask her questions that will give you insight into her personality.

Be authentic, and hone in one thing she said in her profile that really resonated with you or a picture of a place that you’ve visited (or plan to), and build a fun, friendly, pithy first message around that.

“Brevity is the soul of wit”—so said Polonius in Hamlet, and, if Shakespeare were checking over your Ok Cupid messages for you, he’d telleth thee the same thing.

We all know the story: You’ve seen someone’s online or dating app profile and you like what you see.

Now it’s time to suss one another out, to see if they’re more than just a pretty face.

The problem: You have an out-of-town wedding, then a business trip, then your parents are staying with you for a few days, and it’s going to be a couple weeks before you’re able to meet. You probably shouldn’t have messaged her in the first place.

While this note seemingly runs counter to the one before it, it makes perfect sense: It’s not wise to start something you won’t be able to pursue in person for a while.

After all, knowing how to use good grammar and punctuation is one of the 30 Life Skills Every Man Should Know.