There’s a reason I took the time to show the difference between Western and Philippine culture regarding this issue. I can give a bit more lenience to college age girls who fall for their older, mentoring professor who is maybe 20 years their senior.

And it is this; what applies and occurs in the West is NOT what applies and occurs here in the Philippines. In the USA, the reasons a 19 year old, self-centered, insecure girl decides to run off in a relationship with a 59 year old man are usually pretty obvious. Once in a blue moon these sort of relationships work out in the US.

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Two men can show up at a party as being openly Gay, living together as spouses and these days nobody dares speak a word against it. slanders are uttered, accusations and judgments are made. People look at a younger woman and assume the ONLY reason she would ever marry him is because he is wealthy. She should be out there, in the world, making her own fortune and not relying on a man who has established some security he’s willing to share with her in marriage.

But that’s all assuming that ‘equality’ has anything to do with non-dependence. In a same-age relationship, if the husband works and the wife doesn’t..

Today’s American woman, for the most part, does not value or practice the age-old values of a ‘submissive wife who trusts in God’. It’s been a long time since anyone batted an eye regarding a White and Black spouse being married or in a relationship.

And this has everything to do with why the age-difference relationship is, to this very day, considered a pariah of society in America despite having such an open mind about interracial or same-sex relationships. (.) But people in America today are very accepting of both these relationship scenarios. if someone shows up at the family reunion or Christmas party and the age difference between spouses is anything more than 10 years.. Comments are made and if the age difference is 20 years or more.. made upon anyone who dares to love or (gasp) marry someone with any noticeable age difference in America. Namely, what I just mentioned about how little girls are taught about self-sufficiency and independence.

It is not a rare occurrence here to see older men happily married with much younger women.

Now, people are people and you’ll find some unhappy couples if you look around enough.

Here, young girls ARE told to esteem the ‘Proverbs 31’ Wife model. Mothers teach their daughters in all strictness that when the day comes that they marry a man, they are to love him faithfully. But as a whole trend, Filipinas by age 17 already know how to keep a clean house, earn money, save money, help raise their baby siblings and have a much higher sense of respect for the authority of their parents. if you expect to date a younger Filipina here, be prepared more often than not to meet with her parents on the first or second date.

They respect their parents that much, by and large.

It is no longer esteemed as it once was even in America’s own history as recently as 75 years ago.