At the time of my original post, I had only met his parents and some of his cousins.At Christmas, I was introduced to his entire family and spent 4 days straight with them. The men from my past were always saying I love you, and yes, I was happy with them, too, but it was always a roller-coaster kind of happiness happy then sad, happy then sad, up and then down.

after ten months of dating-30

You no longer feel embarrassed about being naked around them; by extension are no longer embarrassed about being with them in front of your mates. Obviously, this depends on when their birthday falls, not how long you’ve been dating.

Imagine you were going out with someone and didn’t buy them a present just because you hadn’t reached the four-month milestone yet; imagine the uncomfortable birthday date – there’d be one, because they’ve introduced you to all their mates – and you have to confess (or more likely, studiously avoid the fact) that you hadn’t bought them anything.

Indeed, you’ve been thinking of little else when you’re together (or separated) – partly because you’d quite like to get it out of the way and make it, like the hand-holding, normal. Girls will be agonising about the time-old dilemma: wanting to wait for propriety’s sake, but also worrying that the boy will lose interest. It’s always really awkward putting your clothes on after you tore them off about half an hour earlier – it’s the comedown after the big night out.

This milestone coincides roughly with the time you introduce your new person to your mates: perhaps there is a connection.

Probably takes place lying in bed when you least expect it.

Expect to answer thinly-veiled questioning on where you see yourself in five years.

He has only said those words to one girl, his ex, and after their relationship ended, he questioned whether it was her he really loved or just the idea of the 2 of them together (they had known each other since high school).

He said that the next time he says it, he wants to be 100% sure.

Maybe feeling comfortable enough to say “I’ll be staying here often”, and revealing whether you go for manual or electric; maybe it’s just a happy coincidence (happier if you go electric – it’s so much cleaner). It’s all brilliant, they smell like roses and you couldn’t be happier. It could be about where you’re supposed to go out for dinner. This is [insert name of the person you pulled six months ago].” You revert to your “home” personality type (obnoxious, a bit adolescent), while your partner worries about whether to hug or shake hands, whether to chime in or let you do the talking. This sounds a bit seedy, but it’s probably not (unless you want it to be? Maybe a short trip somewhere like Copenhagen, Dublin or some remote cottage in the Cotswolds.

It could be about why you never clean your room or show any affection in public. If you make it through this then there will be many more. It sounds like a great idea at the time but never is.

To be frank, if you don’t get them anything for their birthday, you probably won’t reach the next milestone.