This is a much more serious situation - but not why you might think.

Once you've worked through both of these processes, you'll have a better idea a to what you have to let go of within yourself, so that you can honestly trust your partner (and in turn, yourself), to never have to question his fidelity or honesty again.

We've been called the Tinder for milfs and Older Women!!

I thought about doing that but to be honest, there are so many sites and so many people on them, who has that kind of time? We have sex daily (and not just vanilla sex, either), I keep myself in great shape and am enthusiastic. But now that you say you get them and never go to those types of sites I don't know what to think! That e-mail account gets loads of dating site spam. One of those accounts was mainly used as a way to snoop on the estranged husband's dating site profiles. And that account was used to enroll in several of the dating sites as part of that. I have about 110 Favorites, and I belong to all the major things.. I belong to review websites like Yelp and a bunch of boards as well. (if their are other things amiss, then share them, if this is the only thing that doesn't feel right, I would ignore it) I have never ever been on a dating site, and I get stuff in my spam and junk for dating sites, penis enlargement, shoot I get stuff for rogaine, and I am a girl. My husband got upset at that spam before, when he was gone the last time, i had looked at his email..mail there was an email or two from a dating site, SEE HONEY!!!!

Also, you usually have to become a member to view profiles and that's not something I really want to do. The other e-mail account used for my daily life gets hardly any of that spam. That e-mail account gets loads of dating site spam. I even visit off the wall sites too like and such..

So now, you're (possibly) checking his phone "innocently", and have all these doubts and fears coming up that you don't know what to do with.

Someone with a different history - say, a girlfriend of yours - would get different treatment from you, yes?Something horrible happened, and now you don't trust your partner. These are all big, huge questions, and ones that we'd be better off exploring in a love coaching-type arrangement.In the meantime, I suggest learning to love yourself, and then, figuring out if he's The One.This isn't meant to embarrass you, or put any sort of blame on your shoulders.Rather, I want you to take responsibility for your own actions. What if, it was only within yourself that it could possibly change? That being said, it's my turn to ask for some imput. We are in our mid 40's with grown children who do not live with us. The sad thing is that even when times are good he has exhibited some pretty bad behavior. I can not speak for your hubby, but I know that I am an ecstatically married relationship coach and do not surf one single "dating site" and yet at this moment right now I have 133 emails in my inbox and 303 in my spam filter, and about 1 in 3 of those emails is some sort of "Singles" ad or another. One of the things I had to do was to set up what was called a honeypot. All we had to do was click on a link on even nonsexual websites. And we'd use the email address to send and receive email--not even to any odd addresses at all. You will never get rid of it, all it does is increase.